Family Rules

We have been discussing rules since Grant was about 18 months old, have read several books and are currently in the middle of a great parenting program; however, our problem has always been having interim rules in place as we learn new skills. We have tried countless times to sit down and come up with a few rules but every time we would just sit there stumped, unable to generate any ideas. That all ended a few nights ago. I had jotted down a few, well most of the rule ideas a few days before and decided the time was right to unveil project "it's about time we get some rules around here." Everyone was in agreement and so after a fairly short yet lively discussion we have a set of our very own RULES!!!

Grant suggested that we all serve as a referee. If we see someone about to break a rule we can help them remember. We also get one freebie per rule. For example. If Grant says something mean to me I can tell him that he has said something mean and it hurt my feelings. I will show him a better way to express his feelings and if he responds appropriately(once calmed down)and apologizes then the matter is over no consequence. After all we do believe in repentance.

Grant seems to be very excited about the new rules. This morning when Matt left for work Grant and I noticed at about the same time that our bed was not made. Grant wanted me to call Matt and remind him of the rule so he wouldn't have to sleep on the floor tonight. Matt laughed when we called and said that he was just thinking about it and was on his way back. He came in the house laughing and quickly made his bed. Rules work really well if both parent's are enthusiastic. But I have noticed that with boys whatever tone Daddy takes the boys will follow. Since Matt is willing to(cheerfully)keep the rules and be held to the same consequences Grant is so excited to do the same.

I know you are dying to read our rules so without any further delay I present;

Our Family Rules


1)You may be in the house if you use an inside voice. If not you have to go outside.

2)You may have toys(or the adult equivalent)if you put them away when finished playing with them. If left out they are put in the garage.

3)You may eat meals with the family if you sit still in your chair and use the plates, cups, utensils, napkins, place mats, and table cloth for the purpose they were intended for. If the table rules can not be kept you will be excused from the table.

4)You may sleep in a bed that is made. If the bed was not made in the morning you have to sleep on the floor.

5)You can talk and play with others if your voice is soft and kind and you are gentle. If not talking and playing with others will be postponed until you can resume being soft, kind and gentle.

6)Play time comes after work time. (play time is anything beyond the everyday stories, wrestling, bike ride, etc. I think some amount of recreation is vital each day)